The First Purge
I don't recall ever purging a friend from my life. I'm generally easy-going, not all the time, of course. I do bite back. But my bark is usually worse than my bite.During a trip to Cambodia 2 years back, a friend made a scathing remark about me to the other girls. Word somehow got back to me and I was very upset by her unkind words. But I brushed things aside, reminded myself that this is a friend whom I have know for 10 years. I recalled the good times, how she came to me in my times of need. It was hard, acting like I did not know what she said. I pulled through. Other friends told me to just purge her from my life. I couldn't. She's still a good friend, until this day.
Another friend totally purged a mutual friend of ours, who sent us all a nasty email right after his marriage saying that his wife had told him to stop contacting all of us and yes, he was going to listen to his wife. After a hiatus of 8 years, he's now seeking a divorce from his wife and trying to mend fences with friends and family again. All except one. She simply refused to accept his apology and to her, he does not exist anymore. I never understood her stubbornness.
Until now.
Labels: Friendship
2 Comments:
Oh, you're still posting - thought you'd quit! Welcome back.
About this post... I always think about pain-avoidance. I'd rather a quick cut than more pain in the future. Neither option is easy but I am no masochist. Life is tough, sure. But people do need to learn to have respect and consideration for others.
I was relieved. It's so much better than to pretend that our friendship is the way it was 10 years ago, or even one year ago. Too much trust lost. It's like mending a broken mirror. The cracks still show.
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